Very few people actually have the courage to say sorry. Actually, its not about the sense of etiquette and manners but one really needs to be courageous to say sorry. And when it comes to the love relationships, then it almost becomes an ordeal to say sorry to your sweetheart. Perhaps it was not your fault but in spite of that often your partner is awaiting to hear this sacred word from you.

If it is your fault, then make up your mind that you have to say sorry forgetting all your self respect. In fact once you have said sorry, your self respect will be innate in front of your lover. Most of the times we do the stupidest acts and expect others to come and apologize. Our silly ego never let us stoop our heads, whatever the fault is. This is where we are lagging behind from them who does not hesitate to say sorry.

While being in love many a stupid things happen. We forget our anniversaries, birth dates of our partners, forget their favorite food and perfume, their favorite color, we forget to reach at time on date, we often say loads of gibberish to them and expect a runner applause. Sometimes our stupidity reaches to its height and we behave utterly nonsense in case of eulogizing as well as rectifying their deeds. But we never feel to say sorry to others because of these. We do not find any mistakes done but what actually is been done is the accidental break-ups. Loving somebody is not a hard job but continuing this relationship is a challenge. Small mistakes like these often crate an unexpected disaster and our heart breaks in no time.

While rehearsing to say sorry, one should not forget whether he or she really wants to say sorry or doing all these only in order to impress their partners. If you really feel sorry then only try these following tips: 1.Call her up and say that you are really sorry. Do this as soon as possible. When the problem is just been created, the wound is very fresh so he or she will not take much time to recover from it if you have said sorry very early. 2.If your partner is immensely angry and not picking your phone call, then send her flowers and chocolates, other gifts which might remind him or her about the nicest things you have done together. Add a note writing you are sorry. 3.If you have time and really want to do something that he or she will never forget, pick up a camera and take some snaps showing how sorry you feel without her. You can even create a video. This will surely confirm him or her, how much you miss him or her. 4.Cook his or her favorite dishes if you can. If not then take him or her to a good place and arrange a great treat. Give a sorry greeting card. 5.Finally hold her hand and say sorry. Hug her. If she hugs you back, you are out of danger and safe. Because she has finally forgotten you.

“What is the next step that a man can do if his wife cannot satisfy his sexual needs?” asked by A.

At first I thought A was asking about how to boost his sexuality with proper nutrition and food, but when I further read the question, I got a shock. Well, it seems now it is the problem of a wife. Nevertheless, I am writing on behalf of A before writing on the 2 golden keys that a wife should have to keep their marriage vibrant.

To have huge sexual appetite is not a sin nor something to be shy of. One should never underestimate the power of sex. Sex is part of our everyday life like food is to all of us. Have a look at what I have to say for the above asked question. Since it is a question asked, at least this friend A is considering what to do and not involved in anything yet. Luckily he is also asking on behalf of another friend. But I am in no position to influence him in any order. I respect a person’s choice. My only advice is to read through my 7 bold reasons why man shouldn’t cheat their wives before making any decision. Your own decision is still your best decision.

[1] MQ to consider

What is this? It is Moral Quotient. All of us have to be aware of the importance of MQ in the family. MQ is a skill to do things correct and right. MQ is a skill that all of us should possess. I always sum up this quotient as how one should do things right and proper. ‘Do not do to others that you don’t like others to do unto you” It is a saying of a wise sage, Confucius..

Understand the verse, read the verse, memorize the verse. If one doesn’t allow his spouse, the wife to cheat on him, he should also not cheat at the first place. Will you be hurt if your wife cheated you too when you are at home while she went travelling?

[2] Not fair to the wife

It is not fair to the wife who stays at home to look after the children while her husband cheats her on business trips. Cheating hurts just anyone, especially the fairer sex. The proper wife who have to always stay at home to look after the family are not aware of being cheated. But if we look at things at a closer range, all of us will be angered by such deeds. If you have a father who always cheat on your mother, how will you feel? If you have a beloved daughter and she is always cheated by her husband, how will you feel?

[3] Invite troubles

All of us should be responsible for what we do. All of us have to be aware that a secret will not be a secret forever. Sometimes after a husband cheated his wife overseas, he brought back herpes and had his wife infected. I personally knew of a case where her husband cheated on her on a business trip to Peking and brought back a horrible sex disease. She only found out through her pregnancy of her third child because the doctor told her that her baby was diseased and have to be aborted.

It was double shock for her. She cried her eyes swollen and I personally comforted her during her abortion which was such a disgraceful and inhuman act. I sympathized her but couldn’t do anything. She was terribly upset and suffered mentally and emotionally too. She lost her baby just because of her husband’s unfaithfulness. A night of betrayal have caused enough hurt and dismays not worth to mention.

[4] Beware of AIDS

Do you know the amount of people dying of AIDS? Or do you know how AIDS have caused miseries and anguish for many affected patients? Are you only looking at your own selfish needs and never understood the cries and pleads of untold women in distress? AIDS are in rampant in so many countries. Look out for more details from the net.

[5] Forbidden fruit once tasted will be difficult to rid.

The sins and temptations of flesh are not easily erased. It will be easily addicted. Bad influence brings bad results. Prevention is better than cure. As I always mention on the case of Samson. His night of sensual pleasure caused him lifetime imprisonment and eventually death. He regretted but was too late. He sacrificed his precious life for just that night’s pleasure. Temporary pleasure is just so shortlived. Temporary pleasure have to be paid a hundredfold. Sometimes, we are no better than mere animals who know no morals and no self discipline.

[6] When you buy sex, you are also encouraging this profession

When there is demand, there is supply. Demand comes first. Too many young girls are now influenced by the comfort of light and easy earned money. Once known as the oldest profession is now a popular profession. Sad to say, where can we find peace of mind for our sisters and our daughters? What is our younger generations lacking of? Why the lost of control of youngsters nowadays? Why are these naive, innocent and nice girls not able to do things proper? Where is their MQ? What have gone wrong to all of us? Who to blame? The lure of …..?

[7] Pass the test

Sometimes it is a pre-set trap from your spouse. Humans should learn to pass this test, a temptation of flesh. We shouldn’t only emphasize on this physical act of love, we should learn more about the 95% meaning of LOVE.. Learn more on God’s love, parental love, fraternal love, spouse’s love, friendships, partnerships, comradeships and patriotic love too. It is rather on one’s concept towards how one looks at love and marriage. No one can help if he or she is unwilling to change. Yes, no one, except you yourself.

Understand the law of harvest, understand the law of love. Guilt and regret and remorse will eat up one’s conscience. You lose, but actually win! You thought you win, but actually lose terribly. If you have decided to cheat, go ahead, but if you have decided not to, I salute you. I salute you because to resist such a temptation is easier said than done. But if all of us can keep to our concept of having one partner for life, you will actually gain more love, more affection, more admiration, more respect, more happiness, more trust from your partner, from your friends and from your family. That is what I should say to sum up this article.

Do you remember all those fun science experiments as a kid? How about the one with the magnet and the iron shavings? Wasn t it amazing to see how powerfully two magnets would oppose each other when they were faced the wrong way, and how strongly they connected and how much more power they had when they faced the right way?

Our relationship with our significant other is very similar to those magnets. We either can spend our time and energy making sure we are turned the way we feel is best for us, or we can take that same energy, turn towards each other, and unleash more energy, creative power and productivity than we have ever known.

So often, people view self improvement as a quest involving only the individual. However, when we have committed to share our life with someone else, it is imperative that we get them on board as well. It s kind of like two horses pulling a cart side by side. One horse can become stronger than the other, but ultimately, it can only pull the cart as fast as the weaker animal. In a committed relationship, it is the same way. Let me give you a personal example from my own life that happened this very morning.

My husband, Chris, is fulfilling his dreams by getting his law degree, which means very long hours studying very tedious material. I am also living my dreams staying at home with our daughter while running a successful internet business. We have learned that one important part of pursuing those dreams is strengthening each other. For example, I woke up this morning to the sounds of our baby daughter crying and ready to eat. I stumbled out of bed as quietly as possible, as my husband didn t need to be up for another hour.

When it was time for Chris to get up, I gently woke him with a kiss and told him it was time to get up. He thanked me for the dinner I had left him before taking off to my meeting the night before as he rolled out of bed. I headed for the kitchen to make him a lunch, and noticed the mound of dishes we both had been too busy to tackle yesterday and possibly the day before. Before I had finished washing the second dish, my husband was at my side, and offered to finish them up. I thanked him, and proceeded to make him an extra special lunch and get to work on my business.

After he was done in the kitchen, I heard one of our songs playing from the stereo, and I looked to see my husband dancing in the living room with our daughter. He asked me to join him. With her nestled in between us, we took a few minutes to dance together. Chris then went and put on my favorite shirt of his before having a quick breakfast and going our separate ways for the day. Although both of us had a busy, stressful, hectic day ahead of us, each of us was ready to take on the world because of the energy and love we had found in each other.

Actually, it is the result of constant, vigilant hard work and conscious effort on both our parts. Instead of improving and progressing completely on our own, we have learned to share the load, and strengthen the other. Think back on the two horses pulling the cart side by side. The stronger horse can only go as fast as its weaker counterpart. Pulling the cart harder will only make him tired and will not get him down the road any faster. In contrast, strengthening his partner will not only get him to his destination faster, it will lighten his load as well.

Another key thing to strengthening your partner, and in turn building yourself, is knowing what makes a difference to your partner. What is meaningful to them? For example, this morning, my husband and I danced in the living room. Many would assume he did that for me. In reality, he is the romantic in our relationship. Although I enjoyed the dance, I did it for him because it means so much to him. In turn, he knows it means the world to me when he spends time with our daughter, so dancing as a threesome was uplifting for everyone.

Find out what strengthens your partner, and let them know what uplifts you. A great way to do this is through assessment tools and personality tests. Then take turns making a conscious, continual effort to build each other up in a way that you both need it. Your power and ability to accomplish much in this life will increase in ways you ve never imagined. Remember, just as magnets, we have two choices on how to spend our energy in our relationships. We can either work hard to keep things the way we want it, or we can turn towards each other, and in turn strengthen each other and become a powerful force for everyone: our families, our community, our coworkers, and especially ourselves.

On this week’s Relationship Radio Show in Atlanta on RadioSandySprings.com I had the privilege of interviewing Dane Cunningham of Embracing-Relationships.com. Our topic was “Spiritual Singles: Dating and Relating from a Biblical Perspective.”

Dane is an interesting guy. He is an Elder and Ordained Minister with New Birth Missionary Baptist Church, where he has served in many capacities including Director of Singles Ministry. Dane is the founder and CEO of Embracing Relationships Seminars. And to add to this already interesting mix, Dane is a Sergeant with the Dekalb County Police Department in Decatur, Georgia.

Some combination, huh?

2 Tips from this Week’s Show

I could write, (and probably will) several articles from the tips that came out on this show. Here are two of the top tips.

Rear View Relationships

Dane is very big on living with purpose on purpose. One of the main factors that get in the way of living with purpose on purpose is living in the past. To live with purpose you have to look forward. Many of us tend to look back at previous pain and failures and let that get in the way. If you drive your car looking only through the rear view mirror, you won’t get too far. The windshield and rear view mirror come in dramatically different sizes for a reason.

Retarded Relationships

This one cracked me up, and is a great way of looking at taking your time in relationships. Dane Cunningham’s point is that is takes 3 trimesters for a baby to fully develop. If a baby is born is the first or second trimester it is very likely that the baby will die or be retarded in some way.

Dane encourages couples to go slow and give their relationship time to full grow so as to avoid being in a retarded relationship.

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